RaeLynn, a lovely country singer best known for her time on television’s “The Voice,” put her experience as a child of divorced parents to music allowing us all insight to the emotional turmoil a child of divorce faces, sometimes well into adulthood..
“RaeLynn tells “People Magazine‘s” “The whole point of family is to be a unit and to do a lot of things together and it’s just not that when your parents are divorced. I think there’s been a lot of divorce songs out there, but they’ve always been about the parents. They’ve never been from the kid’s perspective.”
She further reflects that seeing her parents on a court ordered schedule hurt her Dad as well, “My dad would pick me up every other Friday at 6, and drop me off by 6 on Sunday. Around 4 every Sunday, I remember him getting a little sad, because he wouldn’t get to see his baby for two weeks. I can’t imagine, when I become a mother, not being able to see my child for two weeks. That’s really hard, but that’s the truth, and that’s the normal for a lot of kids in divorced homes. They have to split their time and split their love. It really is not that fair, but it’s a lot of our normal and our truth.”
For more of her interview PLUS a live performance video of the song “Love Triangle” Click here.
official video RaeLynn - Love triangle
Find Humor Where You Can
As you might be realizing by now, this divorce is taking a toll. I have to come up with ways of finding humor where none really should exist:
- One day I gave my kids permission to sing “Chuck” in the name game song (previously forbidden). Sing along now, “Chuck, duck, bo buck fee fie fo F*&#….”
- I named my vacuum cleaner after the Step-Mom, yeah, it’s a Dyson so Jill never loses suction.
- I remember the great times I had with my whole family, yes, even the former husband.
- I think about the day my kids discover that they were used like pawns, fodder, just to hurt me.
- I try to imagine the day that the Former Spouse meets St. Peter, in my imagination his making up rationalizations for his treatment of me is riotously funny.
- I pretend I am in disguise and watching my son in a play.
- I sing songs loudly which I dedicate to Chuck, Jill, her sister Robin, and my once monster-in-law: some great ones are
- “Mean” by Taylor Swift and
- “Pigs, Three Different Ones” by Pink Floyd.
- I imagine Jill actually catches him being unfaithful.
- but my favorite one is the one where these guys just get over hurting me and decide to work together as an extended family.
UPDATE AUGUST 29, 2016
I’m writing a documentary about Television and movies and their role in Parental Alienation. The focus will be how society is almost encouraging the breakdown of family, and its long tern effect upon adult children.
Write me to help out please.